Today all my Seattle and Torrance friends started back to school, 1200 miles apart, but sharing the same experience. Facebook is filled with darling photos with smiling children and notes of what grade they are beginning, I’ve watched them grow taller over the years. There would be no “back to school” photo with backpack in our photo albums, no formal class picture, no spring picture to compare to the fall. We are no longer part of that community. Today I felt the loss.
Today was also my presentation for the local MOMS Club Chapter about bagged lunches versus school lunches. My goal was to tell them about my experience with school lunches and to try to inspire them to pack a healthy option for the little ones entering elementary school.
I was brought back to three years ago, where T was dropped off at the local school for his first public school experience. It took me a couple of months to get situated, to get into a preschool program for PJ and then be able to volunteer in his class. On my big volunteer day sometime in January, I walked with the kids out to the “cafeteria” to find a service window with a lunch lady handing out plastic wrapped lunches in brown paper baskets. All the food was brown. Brown potato “smiles,” brown breaded chicken breast on a whole wheat bun and a brown ice-cream looking thing called “Chocolate Launch! Frozen Whey Protein.” No fruit, no veggies. I later discovered that “ketchup” and the potatoes covered that food group.
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LAUSD 2011 lunch of "Sweet & Sour" |
I. Was. Mortified. All the literature from “CafĂ© LA” and their website advertised “healthy meals” for our children. I bought it hook line and sinker. These meals were positively disgusting and I had trusted that the second largest school district in the country had my back, my kid's best interest in mind. Grrr.
I packed lunches after that. I did "bento" style using Laptop Lunches. I became an expert and an activist.

The bigger fish to fry is really the USDA who thinks it's okay to call "ketchup" a tomato, but these things are coming clearer every day.
But the point is, it was a fight. Everything within a school district is a bureaucracy and even a simple thing like getting a healthy square meal for a kid is a freaking fight. Can you see where these thoughts were headed?
And so, my successful talk concluded, I headed home to my boys who were hanging with their favorite sitter. I was greeted with relaxed smiles and they reported they did some math and played Uno. Happy Kids.

So angst-schmangst. I know it's all good. Even if I need to sit here and spill the beans to you to make myself feel justified. I know you know, and I know you support me. I'm feeling pretty grateful. Thanks for that.